Fears Rush In

Family Time at the Zoo

Ever since this last seizure experience Mark and I have been battling the fears that like to creep into our minds. I was trying to explain the exhaustion of my thoughts to a friend recently. After something like this rocks your world you analyze everything you used to take for granted. I remember taking the kids for a walk the first time and trying to figure out which route would be safest...should I walk down busier streets or neighborhoods in the event I had a big seizure while walking? Should I take a bath...my go to stress reliever...or has my head been calm enough for me to trust my body not to betray and potentially drown? Even my husband is on edge since he was the witness to it all, if he hears a large crash near to where I am he checks in with me. If I feel small ones coming on he requests I lay in the middle of the bed, or somewhere soft so I don't injure myself in the event something big happens next. These fears play in our minds along with bigger ones.

The bigger ones come rushing in as to why did this happen now? I don't quite believe the answer my neurologist gave of it being sleep deprivation and an ineffective dosage of medicine. This is my 4th time with a big seizure...the first also occurred in July but 25 years ago and was during my chemotherapy so we could explain it with the meds being in my system. The 2nd came in my senior year of highschool and we later figured out I had been misdiagnosed with PTSD for years. I thought I was having flashbacks to chemo when in reality I had been having partial seizures. All of those partial seizures built up and came out in a huge grand mal right before my winter finals senior year. The 3rd one was explained by my first pregnancy. This time the explanation seems to be lacking and leaves me feeling like a ticking time bomb. What mother is not sleep deprived? How many times have I been sleep deprived without anything happening?

I explained to the Neurologist's assistant that we did not accept that answer as the whole truth so my doctor is ordering an MRI as a next step to see if there is something there. Part of me wants something definitive to show up and another part doesn't want anything to show up at all. If something shows up on the MRI it may mean something even scarier than what I've been living with.

What do you do when you're living in the unknown? Brain stuff feels very scary because it's a lot of trial and error before finding what works. It takes a great deal of patience and an ability to look at the big picture. At the same time I can't give up my right to advocate for myself with doctors, even specialists. I know my body, but even more God knows my body. He knows my brain and he knows my future so when I get wrapped up in the what ifs I have to look to God and the evidence he's already given me of his healing power.

My first seizure was probably the scariest one. I was 7 years old and taking a nap on the couch when my parents sent my younger sister to get me to come for dinner. She attempted to wake me up but I wouldn't budge and had a smirk on my face. Anyone who knew me when I was going through chemo knew I was an expert at the fake sleep so that the residents at KU Med would leave me alone. So my parents were convinced I was trying to fake again. However I was not waking up no matter their attempts. I'm not certain at what point I started seizing, but 911 was called and an ambulance, fire truck, and other first responders came to our house. My parents asked for them to take me to KU Med since that's where I was being treated for my cancer. They ended up having to make a detour to Shawnee Mission Med to get me to stop seizing and then they transported me to KU Med. I remained in a coma for 36 hours. Hard discussions were had with the doctors at KU Med as to my chances of survival and whether I would have a certain quality of life. However, I squeezed my father's hand and they knew we would get through this. That was the July before my 2nd grade year. I woke up unable to communicate, walk, or feed myself. Thanks to my parents for their diligent work with me, I was able to enter 2nd grade as an average kid.

When I finished chemotherapy my parents threw a party and at a special ceremony my father, with tears in his eyes, read the story of Jairus' daughter.

 Now when Jesus returned, a crowd welcomed him, for they were all expecting him.  Then a man named Jairus, a synagogue leader, came and fell at Jesus’ feet, pleading with him to come to his house because his only daughter, a girl of about twelve, was dying.
 While Jesus was still speaking, someone came from the house of Jairus, the synagogue leader. “Your daughter is dead,” he said. “Don’t bother the teacher anymore.”
 Hearing this, Jesus said to Jairus, “Don’t be afraid; just believe, and she will be healed.”
 When he arrived at the house of Jairus, he did not let anyone go in with him except Peter, John and James, and the child’s father and mother.  Meanwhile, all the people were wailing and mourning for her. “Stop wailing,” Jesus said. “She is not dead but asleep.”
 They laughed at him, knowing that she was dead.  But he took her by the hand and said, “My child, get up!”  Her spirit returned, and at once she stood up. Then Jesus told them to give her something to eat.  Her parents were astonished, but he ordered them not to tell anyone what had happened.

Luke 8. 40-42, 49-56

They quite vividly relate to that story, as my parents felt I was on the edge of death and Jesus healed me so completely. I try to remind myself in the hard times that if God wills it, He will heal me. If I face another hard road He will walk with me and I know He's placed a wonderful support system around me. After facing all we did with Gideon we can no longer be confident that healing is how we want it to be. Often God heals in creative ways and we have to give it all up to Him again and again, trusting Him and His ways.

God knows how to time my Bible studies to bring just the right passage at the right time...this is what I opened to today:

 Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
James 5.13-16

So thankful for all those who stand with us in prayer once again no matter the outcome! Trying to remember the many blessings He has already given us!